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    What Happens at the Hospital After I Have My Baby?

    28 November 2018

    Deciding to place a child for adoption naturally leads to a lot of questions. One of the most common questions parents have is, “What’s going to happen at the hospital?” Encompassed here are questions about seeing the baby after it’s born, whether the adoptive parents will be there, and much more. Fortunately, many of the answers to these questions depend greatly on your decisions.


    Pre-Hospital Decisions

    There are several decisions that should be made before you ever get to the hospital, particularly if you’ve been planning the adoption for some time. One of the most important decisions you’ll make is who will be present at the birth. Some mothers prefer to be alone during the birth, as well as before and after. Not wanting contact with the child or the adoptive parents is completely understandable, but so is wanting the adoptive parents present in the labor room and to hold and see the baby after the birth. This is something you need to decide, either with or without input from the adoptive parents, before .


    Having friends or family present at the hospital is also a decision for you to make. Remember, your emotions will likely run high, if only from the hormonal shift following birth. Because of the stress involved, you may decide you don’t want or need anyone to be close to you during this time. That’s also perfectly understandable and acceptable. If you choose to have a support system, though, it’s important to surround yourself with people who will give you the moral support you need, be they your own family, close friends, or the adoptive family.


    Decisions During Your Hospital Stay

    For some mothers, seeing the baby is extremely important in helping them process the adoption; for others, such closure is not required. It’s up to you to decide how to proceed; do what’s best for you. Keep in mind that many make decisions, and some feel that they should have decided differently; you’ve carefully considered both options.


    The child will have to be named after birth, even if that name will later be changed by the adoptive parents. An adoption counselor or other person involved in the process could help with this, if necessary. Some adoptive parents keep the given name of the child. Don’t be afraid to discuss these things during the adoption process.


    Taking Control of the Decision-Making Process

    Regardless of the decisions you’ve made previously, you can change your mind about any or all of them. If you’ve chosen not to see the child, you haven’t given up the right to do so. Should you decide it’s in your best interest to see the baby, simply ask a nurse to bring the child to your room, or visit him or her in the nursery. Just make sure you’re communicating your needs, either to an adoption counselor or another advocate on your behalf. Your needs should be considered throughout your hospital stay.


    Taking Care of Yourself

    No matter how you choose to handle the decisions surrounding the actual birth, the birth itself will be much like every other birth. It will be tiring and taxing, your emotions may run out of control, and you may experience a range of feelings you didn’t expect. It’s always important to remember that all of this is okay, and completely normal; an experienced adoption advocate can help you through this process, and, no matter what, the decisions are yours to make.

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    In today’s diverse family landscape, second-parent adoption has become an essential legal tool for many families, particularly for those formed through assisted reproduction, same-sex relationships, or blended families. At Modern Family Formation, we focus on adoption and assisted reproduction law across Virginia, Maryland, and the District of Columbia, and we recognize the critical importance of second-parent adoption for non-delivering parents. This legal process ensures that both parents in a family, regardless of biological connection, are recognized and protected under the law. Understanding Second-Parent Adoption Second-parent adoption, also called Confirmatory adoption, allows a non-delivering parent to gain legal recognition and parental rights without the need to terminate the rights of the biological parent. This type of adoption is particularly relevant in families where one parent is biologically related to the child, while the other is not. For example, in many same-sex couples, one partner may be the biological parent through assisted reproduction, while the other partner seeks to adopt the child to ensure equal legal standing. In some cases, the non-delivering or birth parent may be the genetic parent of the child, but will still need to adopt to secure their rights. Legal Security for Your Child The most compelling reason for second-parent adoption is the legal security it offers your child. If laws changed and your parentage was challenged, the Judgment or Order of Adoption would protect your family. This protection provided includes medical care, education, and even custody should something happen to the birthing parent. Second-parent adoption ensures that both parents can provide care and make crucial decisions throughout the child's life. Protection Across State Lines Family laws can vary significantly from state to state. Second-parent adoption creates a legally recognized relationship between a child and both parents, which is respected nationwide. This means your family can move or travel without worrying about the variability of state laws affecting your parental rights. Ensuring Inheritance Rights Without a legal parent-child relationship, a child may not automatically inherit from their non-birthing parent. Second-parent adoption safeguards a child’s right to receive an inheritance, social security benefits, or insurance payouts. It provides peace of mind knowing that, in the event of the unthinkable, your child’s financial future is protected. Emotional Stability and Recognition Beyond the legal aspects, second-parent adoption affirms the emotional bond in the family.. It validates the family unit in the eyes of society and gives the child a sense of stability and belonging. Knowing that both parents are recognized equally reinforces the child's understanding of their family structure. Facilitating Parental Responsibilities Day-to-day life involves countless interactions where parental authority is assumed or required. Picking up a child from school, authorizing a field trip, or attending a doctor’s appointment are all situations where having clear, legal parental status is essential. Second-parent adoption removes any ambiguity about who has the authority to act on behalf of the child. Preparing for the Future Life is unpredictable, and preparing for all eventualities is part of responsible parenting. Should the birthing parent become unable to care for the child due to illness or death, second-parent adoption ensures that the non-birthing parent retains full parental rights, avoiding potential custody battles with other relatives or the state. Health Insurance and Benefits Many employer health plans and government benefits extend coverage to a child only if there is a legal parent-child relationship. Second-parent adoption may become necessary for securing these benefits for your child, including health insurance, life insurance, and access to family leave if your legal relationship was challenged. Reflecting Real-Life Families Our society is evolving, and the concept of family is more inclusive than ever before. Second-parent adoption is a way for the law to catch up with reality, recognizing and protecting all family structures. It sends a message that all families, regardless of how they are formed, are valid and deserving of equal treatment under the law. Conclusion At Modern Family Formation, we believe that every family should have the opportunity to secure their bonds through the full extent of the law. Second-parent adoption is not just a legal formality; it's a crucial step in safeguarding the well-being of children and the rights of non-biological parents. It's about ensuring that love, not just biology, defines what it means to be a family. If you're considering second-parent adoption, know that you're taking a powerful step towards protecting your family's future. If you have questions or would like to learn more about second-parent adoption, please contact Modern Family Formation today!
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    Adoption is a profound journey that reshapes family boundaries, often bringing immense joy and fulfillment. Among the various forms of adoption, kinship adoption stands out as a unique opportunity to maintain biological family ties while providing children with the stability and love they need. As an adoption attorney, I have witnessed firsthand the transformative power of kinship adoptions and the myriad benefits they offer to both children and families. Preserving Family Bonds Kinship adoption occurs when a child is adopted by a relative or a person with whom they share a significant emotional bond. This could be a grandparent, aunt, uncle, adult sibling, or cousin.. One of the most significant advantages of this arrangement is the preservation of familial connections. Children in kinship adoptions may experience less trauma compared to non-relative adoptions because they are placed in a familiar environment, with people they already know and trust. Continuity of Culture and Identity Children thrive on continuity, and kinship adoption can provide a sense of identity and belonging that is crucial for their development. By staying within their biological family, children can maintain their cultural heritage, traditions, and language. This continuity can help to foster a strong sense of self and supports a smoother transition into their new family dynamic. Strengthening the Support Network Kinship adoption not only benefits the child but also strengthens the support network for the adoptive family. Relatives often have an established relationship and understanding of the child's background and needs. This shared history can make it easier for the family to navigate challenges and celebrate successes together. Legal and Financial Considerations From a legal standpoint, kinship adoption can be more straightforward than other types of adoption. Since the adoptive parents are already related to the child, there may be fewer hurdles to overcome in terms of custody and parental rights depending on the circumstances. Additionally, some states offer financial assistance and resources specifically for kinship adoptions, helping to alleviate potential economic burdens. Emotional Stability and Well-Being Children in kinship adoptions generally benefit from greater emotional stability. They may be less likely to feel abandoned or rejected since they remain within their family unit. This stability is essential for their emotional well-being and may lead to better outcomes in terms of mental health, academic performance, and social relationships. Conclusion Kinship adoption is a compassionate choice that can enrich the lives of everyone involved. It offers a way to keep families together, preserve important bonds, and provide children with the love and security they deserve. As an adoption attorney, I am committed to supporting families through this process, ensuring that the best interests of the child are always at the forefront. If you are considering kinship adoption, we encourage you to explore this rewarding path and discover how it might benefit your family and your loved ones. Learn more about kinship adoption now.
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