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    Same-Sex Couples: Do We Still Need a Second Parent Adoption?

    24 October 2018

    On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court issued its opinion in the case Obergefell v. Hodges regarding the constitutionality of same-sex marriages in the United States. In a 5-4 decision written by Justice Kennedy, the Supreme Court has legalized marriage equality. Thus, same-sex married couples marriages are recognized in all 50 states for all purposes under federal law.


    Being married when your child is born does not automatically secure your parental rights or guarantee those rights will be fully respected even though your marriage is recognized. In fact, your parental rights can be challenged even if your name appears on your child's birth certificate because a birth certificate is an administrative document issued based on a marital presumption that can be rebutted. An Adoption Decree is the surest way to make certain that you will be respected as a parent in every state, no matter where you work, travel or relocate to live. Without an Adoption Decree, your parental rights to your child could be challenged if something happens to the other parent or if your marriage dissolves depending on the circumstances and location. If you have an Final Decree of Adoption, every state will recognize the Final Decree and the Supreme Court recently reinforced that full faith and credit shall be given to final decrees entered in other states in its short and clear direction in V.L. v. E.L., 577 U.S. ___ (2016).


    NCLR, Lambda Legal, Marriage Equality Maryland and many other leading LGBT organizations strongly recommend that all non-biological parents get an adoption or parentage judgment from a court recognizing that they are both the legal parents of their child, even if they are married and even if they are listed as a parent on the birth certificate. Parentage Judgments are issued in cases involving surrogacy. See Protecting-Your-Family-After-Marriage-Equality from NCLR. The www.marriageequality.org states that “Depending on your specific circumstances and where you live, marriage alone may not prevent a challenge to your parental rights if you are not a biological or adoptive parent whether you are a same-sex or a different-sex couple. Not all states fully respect non-biological parents, even when they are married, regardless of what the law requires. In addition, even if your parental rights are respected in the state where you live based on your marriage, you may be vulnerable when you travel or if you move to another state. According to www.marriageequality.org “marriage equality alone will not fully protect all LGBT parents…until we achieve full equality for all families, an adoption or court judgment is the only way to ensure that non-biological parents will be respected as legal parents in all fifty states.”


    Having handled hundreds of adoptions, paternity actions, parentage cases and ART matters, I know that having your name on the birth certificate does not guarantee protection and legal parentage can be challenged. This is partly because most states have not yet had a history of a gender neutral reading of the marital presumption statutes; some states have no parentage acts that provide for a statutory marital presumption and hostile states will do what they can in the coming months and years to thwart an easy and enforceable path for parentage decisions for child born into same-sex marriages. Most states, when parentage is challenged, determine parentage based on DNA or an Adoption Decree so a birth certificate may not be sufficient in a challenge to confirm parentage until the laws catch up with reality.


    So, it is also our recommendation that until there are parentage acts that uniformly across the country expand the definition of marital presumptions to include gender neutral or inclusive language a second parent adoption or parentage judgment should be obtained by any non-biological parent.


    For clients who use a known donor this is even more important (it is for everyone but even more so with known donors) as the donor could be considered to be a legal father especially if you and your partner are not married. In many jurisdictions unless you legally terminate any rights the Donor may have through a court proceeding the Donor may be able to establish rights in the future and seek visitation. As happened in a case in Kansas, if a parent seeks any kind of government benefit, the government could bring a court case to establish the non-biological parent is not a parent and make the known donor a legal father and require him to pay for the benefit your child receives.

    22 November 2024
    In today’s diverse family landscape, second-parent adoption has become an essential legal tool for many families, particularly for those formed through assisted reproduction, same-sex relationships, or blended families. At Modern Family Formation, we focus on adoption and assisted reproduction law across Virginia, Maryland, and the District of Columbia, and we recognize the critical importance of second-parent adoption for non-delivering parents. This legal process ensures that both parents in a family, regardless of biological connection, are recognized and protected under the law. Understanding Second-Parent Adoption Second-parent adoption, also called Confirmatory adoption, allows a non-delivering parent to gain legal recognition and parental rights without the need to terminate the rights of the biological parent. This type of adoption is particularly relevant in families where one parent is biologically related to the child, while the other is not. For example, in many same-sex couples, one partner may be the biological parent through assisted reproduction, while the other partner seeks to adopt the child to ensure equal legal standing. In some cases, the non-delivering or birth parent may be the genetic parent of the child, but will still need to adopt to secure their rights. Legal Security for Your Child The most compelling reason for second-parent adoption is the legal security it offers your child. If laws changed and your parentage was challenged, the Judgment or Order of Adoption would protect your family. This protection provided includes medical care, education, and even custody should something happen to the birthing parent. Second-parent adoption ensures that both parents can provide care and make crucial decisions throughout the child's life. Protection Across State Lines Family laws can vary significantly from state to state. Second-parent adoption creates a legally recognized relationship between a child and both parents, which is respected nationwide. This means your family can move or travel without worrying about the variability of state laws affecting your parental rights. Ensuring Inheritance Rights Without a legal parent-child relationship, a child may not automatically inherit from their non-birthing parent. Second-parent adoption safeguards a child’s right to receive an inheritance, social security benefits, or insurance payouts. It provides peace of mind knowing that, in the event of the unthinkable, your child’s financial future is protected. Emotional Stability and Recognition Beyond the legal aspects, second-parent adoption affirms the emotional bond in the family.. It validates the family unit in the eyes of society and gives the child a sense of stability and belonging. Knowing that both parents are recognized equally reinforces the child's understanding of their family structure. Facilitating Parental Responsibilities Day-to-day life involves countless interactions where parental authority is assumed or required. Picking up a child from school, authorizing a field trip, or attending a doctor’s appointment are all situations where having clear, legal parental status is essential. Second-parent adoption removes any ambiguity about who has the authority to act on behalf of the child. Preparing for the Future Life is unpredictable, and preparing for all eventualities is part of responsible parenting. Should the birthing parent become unable to care for the child due to illness or death, second-parent adoption ensures that the non-birthing parent retains full parental rights, avoiding potential custody battles with other relatives or the state. Health Insurance and Benefits Many employer health plans and government benefits extend coverage to a child only if there is a legal parent-child relationship. Second-parent adoption may become necessary for securing these benefits for your child, including health insurance, life insurance, and access to family leave if your legal relationship was challenged. Reflecting Real-Life Families Our society is evolving, and the concept of family is more inclusive than ever before. Second-parent adoption is a way for the law to catch up with reality, recognizing and protecting all family structures. It sends a message that all families, regardless of how they are formed, are valid and deserving of equal treatment under the law. Conclusion At Modern Family Formation, we believe that every family should have the opportunity to secure their bonds through the full extent of the law. Second-parent adoption is not just a legal formality; it's a crucial step in safeguarding the well-being of children and the rights of non-biological parents. It's about ensuring that love, not just biology, defines what it means to be a family. If you're considering second-parent adoption, know that you're taking a powerful step towards protecting your family's future. If you have questions or would like to learn more about second-parent adoption, please contact Modern Family Formation today!
    10 September 2024
    Adoption is a profound journey that reshapes family boundaries, often bringing immense joy and fulfillment. Among the various forms of adoption, kinship adoption stands out as a unique opportunity to maintain biological family ties while providing children with the stability and love they need. As an adoption attorney, I have witnessed firsthand the transformative power of kinship adoptions and the myriad benefits they offer to both children and families. Preserving Family Bonds Kinship adoption occurs when a child is adopted by a relative or a person with whom they share a significant emotional bond. This could be a grandparent, aunt, uncle, adult sibling, or cousin.. One of the most significant advantages of this arrangement is the preservation of familial connections. Children in kinship adoptions may experience less trauma compared to non-relative adoptions because they are placed in a familiar environment, with people they already know and trust. Continuity of Culture and Identity Children thrive on continuity, and kinship adoption can provide a sense of identity and belonging that is crucial for their development. By staying within their biological family, children can maintain their cultural heritage, traditions, and language. This continuity can help to foster a strong sense of self and supports a smoother transition into their new family dynamic. Strengthening the Support Network Kinship adoption not only benefits the child but also strengthens the support network for the adoptive family. Relatives often have an established relationship and understanding of the child's background and needs. This shared history can make it easier for the family to navigate challenges and celebrate successes together. Legal and Financial Considerations From a legal standpoint, kinship adoption can be more straightforward than other types of adoption. Since the adoptive parents are already related to the child, there may be fewer hurdles to overcome in terms of custody and parental rights depending on the circumstances. Additionally, some states offer financial assistance and resources specifically for kinship adoptions, helping to alleviate potential economic burdens. Emotional Stability and Well-Being Children in kinship adoptions generally benefit from greater emotional stability. They may be less likely to feel abandoned or rejected since they remain within their family unit. This stability is essential for their emotional well-being and may lead to better outcomes in terms of mental health, academic performance, and social relationships. Conclusion Kinship adoption is a compassionate choice that can enrich the lives of everyone involved. It offers a way to keep families together, preserve important bonds, and provide children with the love and security they deserve. As an adoption attorney, I am committed to supporting families through this process, ensuring that the best interests of the child are always at the forefront. If you are considering kinship adoption, we encourage you to explore this rewarding path and discover how it might benefit your family and your loved ones. Learn more about kinship adoption now.
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